We’re all dying. It just matters when. And sometimes we don’t know the ‘when’. It’s what you do about it that counts.
How to stop the distracting ‘what if’ scenarios from destroying your dreams and action plans.
Sometimes, we live out these fears in our head and we’ve never been in the ‘place’ where that fear is imagined. Our fears are big giants standing over us; that in all reality are like fairytales that disappear as soon as reason and ‘proof’ steps in.
For some reason, my dog thinks the toaster is a monster. He has such a fear of the toaster that as soon as I pop some bread into it, he charges out of the house to hide, tail between his legs; convinced the toaster is going to jump off the cupboard, chase after him and gobble him up! In fact, his fear is so massive that despite him hating the rain with a vengeance, he will go and sit out in the rain just to get away from the toaster (normally he wouldn’t let a drop of rain touch his head!). Same thing goes if it is 40C (104F) outside; he would much prefer to swelter in the sun and nearly cark it than be inside with ‘The Monster’. I have no idea why he has such a fear of toasters, and unfortunately, unlike us humans where we can get guidance on our fears, talk through all logical outcomes, and walk out the other side free of the fear, my darling little dog can’t do this and seems destined to be afraid of the monster all of his life, despite my best efforts to reassure him. His situation and the way he carries on reminds me, on occasions, of what us humans put ourselves through, just to avert what we perceive as ‘pain’ due to an ingrained fear that we possess. We will jump through hoops, run 10 miles backward, and climb the wrong mountain; just to avoid ‘it’. In jumping through those hoops, running those miles, and climbing a mountain, we’ve expended more energy than we should have which has taken our energy off what matters. Did you know that it takes more energy to fight your fear than it does to face it and move through it? Fears are self-limiting beliefs that do not serve you in any way. And without evaluating your fear they sit in your subconscious, allowed to fester like a wound, and prevent you from fulfilling your dreams and desires. What beliefs and fears are holding you back from stepping out with passion and purpose? Please feel free to download this worksheet to work through your beliefs and fears so you can transform your thinking and eradicate the monsters!